Friday, August 27, 2010

A different post then you are all waiting for...

Dear Friends, Family, Blog followers and Facebook fans:

This is not quite the update you have all been waiting for, I had it planned out something like a week in pictures (not easy to work though with an incredibly busy 5yr old who we took to all of his first Drs visits this week- any tips on how to get a non english speaking 5yr old boy with definate likes and dislikes- to take medicine, please let us know! )

The first week in pictures I will hopefully work on this weekend. My second thought was to have Caila tell her story on becoming a big Sister (the good the bad and the ugly) in her words. She is a wonderfully talented writer and she seemed interested. My final thought was to title the post something like " One week & Eight More" meaning Chih-Fu's first week home and 8 weeks until baby girl with no name can begin thinking of arrival ( my cerclage will be removed at 36 weeks and then we just wait... )

All of these are great ideas if I do say so myself...

Today presented a different challenge, so here is my newly thought of title, think of it as a short self help magazine article you would see on a grocery store rack:

Life changes to avoid compiling into one 12 (or even 6) month period and how to cope if they occur...

I would start the article something like this:

Life change can be messy, be sure you are able to handle together anything that may be thrown at you when one spouse decides to pursue education, try and put family plans on hold for a period of time. Definitely do not pursue adoption, high-risk pregnancy and parenting a tween at the same time some pieces of the house of cards may begin to fall.

If you have no control over these events make sure to lean into your spouse for support and keep an open line of communication at all times. Most importantly thank your parents for giving you a strong upbringing that didn't make you afraid of stressful situations. Then maybe more importantly from a day to day aspect Thank your friends over and over and over again for their unfailing support during adoption meetings, pregnancy scares and preparing your formerly only child daughter for a sisterhood.

All the experts strongly suggest, no almost forbid adding any other life changes to the mix, even though your small house has now become even smaller, embrace it, you are a family wherever you are together space doesn't matter.

Then comes the last piece that all the books recommend. Once you have begun down the of significant life changing events it may be best to then keep job change far from your thoughts for a period of 6months to 1 year......... Unless you are the Mancavefamily.

We thrive on change, challenges, the unexpected it would seem... Because last Friday Robs company of 7yrs went through a round of layoffs, and he was part of them.

My overwheleming feeling of what we were being taught (specifically me at times) through our family growing leaps and bound this year was again that WE ARE NOT IN CONTROL! God has bigger plans for us and if we arent seeing them ourselves then he is certainly trying to help us see them.

We are so thankful for all the thoughts and prayers we have received along the way, and would be even more grateful for them now.

Trying just to breath~


1 comment:

Anonymous said...

"Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties".
Helen Keller

"Unless we form the habit of going to the Bible in bright moments as well as in trouble, we cannot fully respond to its consolations because we lack equilibrium between light and darkness".
Helen Keller